I Can’t Jay Electronica

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Man look.  I am so over Jay Electronica and this never ending fable of a album.  Like really??!! Does it take this long to cultivate a concept of even dropping an album?

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We as dedicated and persistent fans have waited way to long for some sort of discussion of an album release.  After you deleted your twitter page a few weeks ago, we were left with this empty black hole in our music loving hearts.  How could you do this to us?

I hate to make the comparison but you have done this to yourself. Who do you think you are? Dr. Dre?

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Okay, sorry Jay, I didn’t mean to be so harsh. I take that back. But you are treading along those same lines, and it doesn’t look good.

The gems that you drop ever so seldom-ly do hold us over, but it leaves us wanting so much more. Just to hear the things you addressed in the “We Made It Freestyle” left me really hungry.

Thank you for “Better In Tune with the Infinite“, I think that will hold me for another few months or so.

And what I said it.

Why Lie?

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Men, why lie? I am sick and tired of the petty lies, big life changing lies, mis-communication lies, testing lies, I’m single but have a wife and 10 kids at home lies, and all the other lies in between.

Guys lie about anything and everything. But why?  This post is a plea for answers…. And I don’t want that age old response that men lie so they won’t hurt you.  Fuck that.  They wouldn’t do the very action that would cause the hurt if that was the case.

True, women lie. But never to the extent of men.

Sometimes I think men lie for the sake of being able to do so. At times, we as women can fall victim to the deceit of a man.

Either by his slick word game, his inability to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but it, his dreamy/stoner eyes, or that thick dark and lovey beard. Whatever they use, we got to be strong ladies.

Be strong. That is all.

That’s the end of my rant. And what I said it.

Computer Love: Online Dating 2014

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Okay so it’s 2014,  Yes I have tried online dating a few times. No really, I’m addicted to online dating.

It’s fun. I like being desired by all types of men from just about everywhere. And the whole dating thing is like an adventure to me. You never really know what to expect when you receive a new flirt or a message from a stranger. It’s like opening a mystery box each time. Too bad, sometimes it’s pandora’s box, but hey, you live and you learn.

I am new to the online dating scene, but I have learned a few tips that maybe helpful to survive in the game.

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Lower your expectations, but never your standards. This means that handsome, single, successful doctor, with the great personality, perfect health, debt free, child free, 100% drama free man probably doesn’t exist online.  But the cute, lab tech, still living at home with his parents, tons of debt, low on cash, is really digging your online profile.  Be patient, he got that ambition baby!

And the lies. Men lie in real life all the time,  but virtually the lies are over the moon. It’s important to be attentive and pay attention to details, because he will tell you anything you want to hear.

Have an open mind. Step out of your comfort zone. If you only date a certain type of person, don’t discriminate against a different type approaching you. You can’t continue with the same behavior and expect different results. I’m just saying.

Don’t judge a book by its cover or it’s title.  Remember looks aren’t everything, they are something, just not everything. Guys don’t put as much thought as women do into choosing a profile pic or the content of their bio.

I ran across a nice looking piece of dark chocolate’s profile. On the race question he put mixed. Mixed? I was curious so I sent him a message:

Me: hey sexy chocolate, nice pics. I see you put mixed as your race, tell me more….
Him: Hi, hru? I’m not mixed I like mixed women
Me: O

Clearly he didn’t read the instructions on filling out the “about me” portion of the profile. Doesn’t mean he’s not a good guy, just not a bright guy.

Actually I’ve meet quite a few guys that are 100% better looking face-to-face than in their profile pics.

Now beware of the folks who still try to hold on to their looks from 10 years ago. Why post a picture of yourself 100 pounds lighter, with a full head of hair, in your best outfit, on your best day?  The truth will come to light one day. Save yourself the heartache and embarrassment, post recent and sensible pics.

It is very important to know what you want. If you are looking for a relationship, say that. If you only want a hook up, make that known. If you are looking for wifey or hubby,  be sure to make that clear, upfront. This helps to weed out people who are not looking for the same things you are. It saves a lot of time being openly honest upfront.

And lastly, forget everything you once thought about online dating. I admit,  I had a preconceived notion that only unattractive, freaks and geeks used online dating. I was so pleasantly surprised to see that it is nothing like that. We are living in a virtually enhanced world now, online dating is just a virtual way of meeting new people. People you probably would never have crossed paths with, if not online.

Just like being out in a club or a bar, you see what you like and go for it.  You might get turned down or ignored, but on to the next.

I am still single and have yet to meet my match. But I will continue to online date for the fun of it. Who knows my King could be one click away.

And what I said it.