Okay so it’s 2014, Yes I have tried online dating a few times. No really, I’m addicted to online dating.
It’s fun. I like being desired by all types of men from just about everywhere. And the whole dating thing is like an adventure to me. You never really know what to expect when you receive a new flirt or a message from a stranger. It’s like opening a mystery box each time. Too bad, sometimes it’s pandora’s box, but hey, you live and you learn.
I am new to the online dating scene, but I have learned a few tips that maybe helpful to survive in the game.
Lower your expectations, but never your standards. This means that handsome, single, successful doctor, with the great personality, perfect health, debt free, child free, 100% drama free man probably doesn’t exist online. But the cute, lab tech, still living at home with his parents, tons of debt, low on cash, is really digging your online profile. Be patient, he got that ambition baby!
And the lies. Men lie in real life all the time, but virtually the lies are over the moon. It’s important to be attentive and pay attention to details, because he will tell you anything you want to hear.
Have an open mind. Step out of your comfort zone. If you only date a certain type of person, don’t discriminate against a different type approaching you. You can’t continue with the same behavior and expect different results. I’m just saying.
Don’t judge a book by its cover or it’s title. Remember looks aren’t everything, they are something, just not everything. Guys don’t put as much thought as women do into choosing a profile pic or the content of their bio.
I ran across a nice looking piece of dark chocolate’s profile. On the race question he put mixed. Mixed? I was curious so I sent him a message:
Me: hey sexy chocolate, nice pics. I see you put mixed as your race, tell me more….
Him: Hi, hru? I’m not mixed I like mixed women
Clearly he didn’t read the instructions on filling out the “about me” portion of the profile. Doesn’t mean he’s not a good guy, just not a bright guy.
Actually I’ve meet quite a few guys that are 100% better looking face-to-face than in their profile pics.
Now beware of the folks who still try to hold on to their looks from 10 years ago. Why post a picture of yourself 100 pounds lighter, with a full head of hair, in your best outfit, on your best day? The truth will come to light one day. Save yourself the heartache and embarrassment, post recent and sensible pics.
It is very important to know what you want. If you are looking for a relationship, say that. If you only want a hook up, make that known. If you are looking for wifey or hubby, be sure to make that clear, upfront. This helps to weed out people who are not looking for the same things you are. It saves a lot of time being openly honest upfront.
And lastly, forget everything you once thought about online dating. I admit, I had a preconceived notion that only unattractive, freaks and geeks used online dating. I was so pleasantly surprised to see that it is nothing like that. We are living in a virtually enhanced world now, online dating is just a virtual way of meeting new people. People you probably would never have crossed paths with, if not online.
Just like being out in a club or a bar, you see what you like and go for it. You might get turned down or ignored, but on to the next.
I am still single and have yet to meet my match. But I will continue to online date for the fun of it. Who knows my King could be one click away.
And what I said it.